Updated: Apr 1, 2021
The whole wedding experience brings out different emotions in different people at different times, and it’s not just the preserve of the bride to show a display of emotion. In our time filming weddings we find the majority of the time it's the men who shed the most tears. We’re not just talking about the grooms either, we've seen best men and fathers of both bride and groom blubbing into their hankerchiefs and being overcome by the occasion.
Brides usually reach their most emotional point whilst walking up the aisle and later when reciting wedding vows, especially at the part where they are asked to say ‘as I take you to be my husband’. This moment is usually the culmination of everything brides have thought about their Wedding day since they were 7 years old. Brides are expected to get all emotional but we don’t always expect it of grooms, but why not? After all it is their big day too.
Grooms do show emotion at the sight of their bride walking towards them up the aisle but more and more are revealing their true feelings during their speeches. Maybe the free flowing champagne has had a part to play in making the groom feel more relaxed and comfortable to open up in front of gathered family and friends. Understandably nerves kick in when delivering a speech so a few drinks beforehand may help however this is the moment when grooms really wear their heart on their sleeves.
A Royal Mail survey for Fathers’ Day found that men were much more emotional than women but were just better at hiding it. Being an emotional man goes against the grain of the male stereotype pervaded in society, it is perceived to show weakness and ‘not what men do’. Emotions that men feel often show themselves in art instead such as poetry, films and music. Some of the most heartbreaking, romantic and tear jerking songs ever recorded have been composed by men (Burt Bacharach, Andrew Lloyd Webber, Elton John, James Blunt, Ed Sheeran to name but a few). And when it comes to the wedding day that emotion has nowhere to hide.
I admit that as a groom myself I was suddenly overcome with emotion during our wedding and to this day I don’t really know why. I put it down to a number of factors and not just being one thing. Weddings are emotionally charged occasions because of high expectations with a lot of organising, the consecration of love between two people, the coming together of everyone you’ve known in your life, an outpouring of love and goodwill, heartfelt messages, the relief that the day has finally come – there are so many things to provoke emotion and the bride and groom find themselves at the epicentre of it all.
These moments are often raw and tender, sometimes written as part of the speech, sometimes poured out in a stream of consciousness. Filming these intimate moments are a privilege to see and often emotional to film. We stand behind our cameras with lumps in our throats hearing an outpouring during a heartfelt speech or a moving backstory.
This kind of storytelling is a powerful thing and something we love to do. Weddings provide all the ingredients for such emotive storytelling and this is why it is so important for couples to capture these special memories because they will never be repeated in quite the same way again. Before the Wedding it’s all about the flowers, the dress, the venue, the photo booth and chair covers. After the Wedding when it’s all gone the only thing left is the memories and your Wedding film is the only thing that can truly capture these natural, unscripted moments and show the real emotion of the day, so be sure to book your wedding film with us before it is too late.